You can’t escape rejection, But you can let it go.
That requires reprogramming your mind-set. Here are some exercises that paid big dividends for me:
- Dissect thoughts under the microscope. When faced with a challenge, what do you tell yourself? “I’m no good…” “This is too hard…” “I’ll never make it…” Don’t let negative self-talk sabotage your attitude. Size up the evidence objectively. Chances are you’ll realize your worries aren’t accurate or realistic. Drain the power out of irrational fears.
- Identify realistic fears. Whom do you fear? What might go wrong? Knowledge is power, so clarify the facts: Who has the power to reject you? Why would that person say no? The answers will help you prepare your best offer, and facing them will help you keep your composure.
- Focus on the moment. Keep your perspective. Rejection lasts only a moment, and once it’s over you’ll be able to move on to the next opportunity. Overcoming your fears can be an exhilarating experience, so savor your triumph. great athletes and ace competitors of all sorts are masters of deftly moving through both ups and downs…and not wallowing in either.
- Be more assertive. Most fears of rejection rest on the desire for approval from other people. Don’t base your self-esteem on others’ opinions. Learn to express your own needs–appropriately–and say no to requests when you genuinely can’t help. People respect peers who stand up for themselves.